Retired EMT/FireFighter, Zoning officer.Protestant Franciscan Monk (Friar semi-retired) Order of the Knights of Prayer. God first, family second.Widowed after a 41-year marriage.Fairly open-minded, but fairly dominant in the bedroom. Whilethe man has the final say in marriage, he must consider his wife's opinion.Never fight about something you don't have, and it is both of you fighting back-to-back against the world, not against each other. Talk, then talk some more.There is nothing forbidden between a husband and wife in the bedroom.Sex is NOT a weapon to be used in anger or revenge.If you can't support your wife's dream, you need to reevaluate your own.I have just spent 2 & 1/2 years recovering from a Diabetic Coma. It didn't do my heart and kidneys any good, but medication controls them, and I've lost 50lbs. I live on Social Security, as Friars are not supported financially by the Monastery; we are self-supporting in our communities.Being over 65, I have no responsibility other than prayer and spreading the "Good Word".I've been alone for 14 years now and looking for love again.